Today’s Dance: Resistance

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I’ve written three posts in the last three days while resisting writing a ‘today’s dance’ post. Why? Hell if I know. For some reason I’m struggling with a bad case of ‘don’t wanna’. It’s not that I don’t wanna write posts, or I don’t wanna come up with questions, it’s more that I don’t wanna be ‘obligated’ (remember that one?) to write one every day. So yesterday I didn’t. Take that. I’m sure it affected you deeply (grins). Resistance is a natural force when we face change, or even when we face ongoing responsibilities. There are several ways we can…

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Efficiency: Tackling Problems from Two Angles

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Chain Reaction Afghan (full size) from Interweave Crochet I have two separate, mostly unrelated self improvement goals for the year.  I want to lose weight (specifically, I want to end the year weighing about 130 lbs, which is thirty pounds down), and I want to pay down all of my debt except student loans and my mortgage to zero (this includes significant medical debt, the unavoidable tax debt from having to close out my 401k due to having to support ourselves while Husband has been unable to work, and some moderate credit card debt). Both of these goals are amenable…

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Self Compassion and the Season

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December sucks in the northern hemisphere. That’s probably why so many cultures that got their start in that hemisphere have major celebrations around the solstice. The weather sucks, and it’s sooooooo dark. All those celebrations have a dark underbelly, however. We race around frantically, meeting obligations, ‘enjoying’ ourselves spending time with people we avoid on purpose the rest of the year, and buy stuff neither we nor the people we’re buying them for really want or need, all in the name of the season and whichever of the various celebrations you call yours. We end up, by the time we’re…

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DBT: On Getting Help vs. Self-Help

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[amazon_link id=”1572245131″ target=”_blank” container=”” container_class=”” ][/amazon_link]As a therapist, I am constantly raiding Amazon.com for new books to increase my professional library (above and beyond knitting books, and SF and fantasy, and books with zombies, and vampires and women in corsets and spaceships and scientists and…). So I read the reviews. Because professional books are expensive, and I can’t just pick them up at the library (usually). So I went to this two day training last week on providing individual therapy using DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) created by Marsha Linehan. It was great and I learned a lot, and I have…

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