Women are People: Advice to the Lonely Young “Nice Guy” on my Facebook Who Will Remain Nameless

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Women are people. And this particular woman is really, REALLY glad Facebook wasn’t around when I was your age because I had a lot of the same problems with communication (and relationships) that you do (without the misogyny). And Facebook is forever (at least until it’s not). Dude, that young woman you meet someday that you hope will be the love of your life? Don’t let her read your Facebook. Or better, since that’s really just a dishonest start to a relationship, change so that the crap you’re writing in Facebook today isn’t what you’re bringing into a relationship. I see you…

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No ‘Buts’ About it: Building Relationship with the Power of ‘And’

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…But… Try these on for size: “I love you, but…” “That’s a really great idea, but…” “I’m sorry, but…” “You’re a wonderful friend, but…” Would you like to hazard a guess as to what sort of thing completes the sentences above? It’s a good bet that all of them list a criticism of the person being spoken to, or an unpleasant truth (or lie), or some other bit of negativity that will be hard for the listener to swallow. How is that going to help the relationship?

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Before Foreplay: Spicing up Settled Love

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Seventeen years. When we met, both Husband and I were skinny. Actually, I was slender. He was skinny. And we were dirt poor. And we had one kid, not two. And we had twice as much energy and half as many responsibilities as we do now.

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In Love and Danger: Buy ‘The Sea Captain’s Wife’ for the New Year

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[amazon_link id=”B0054U56OG” target=”_blank” container=”” container_class=”” ][/amazon_link] Call me Ishmael. Nah, that’s plain silly. Call me Maureen. I still love a great sea story, and The Sea Captain’s Wife qualifies.

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