If ‘Conflict’ Means a Punch in the Nose, You’re Doing it Wrong

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Conflict makes you feel out of control: I don’t care how good you are at talking to folk, if you have reached the point where it feels like the best option is punching someone, you’re doing conflict wrong. Really. Really. No, I mean it. Really. You have lost control of yourself, and I”m pretty danged sure that wasn’t your original goal. Now, step back and try to remember what you were trying to accomplish by talking to that person you now want to punch. Is punching him going to accomplish that? Or did your goal shift from something else to…

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Happiness Clinic: Being Merry

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One of the things that is striking about far too many books about how to be happy is how serious they are.  You find the happiness guru and they give you a prescription for happiness, and if you do exactly what the guru says, without fail, happiness appears and you live happily ever after. Bull pucky.  Unhealthy, unhappy bull pucky.  Happiness needs a strong foundation, but it’s not like learning to be a prima ballerina.  You don’t have to put the rest of your life on hold while you study happiness.  Because at the base, underneath all of the other…

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You Can Build Happiness in Fifteen Minutes a Day

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What have you done today to build happiness?   Starting today, make a commitment to spend five, or ten, or fifteen minutes building happiness by working toward something that matters to you.  Too many of us dream of being happy without setting goals that will get us there, or set goals, but don’t do anything to work toward those goals. I’m too busy. I don’t have the money this week. The dog ate my homework. Poppycock (and that’s my professional opinion). Even I can take fifteen minutes to build happiness in my life, working toward that one thing I really…

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Losing Weight: Tackling that Same 30 Pounds Again

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Embed from Getty Images Let me start this by saying that when I say I want to lose weight, most people look at me sideways and object that I’m not fat. Yeah, whatever.  My BMI has me at the low end of the ‘overweight’ range. More importantly, the clothes I have aren’t fitting well and the clothes I want to wear don’t look right on me. Besides, I really like how I look at 130 pound (okay, so actually that’s over 30 pounds, but still). And I had gestational diabetes with both pregnancies, which puts me at high risk of…

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