Reboot and Patreon Announcement

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ReBoot It’s time to reboot. Am I the Only One Dancing has lain dormant now for quite a while. To be frank, I’ve been in mourning since Clinton lost in November, and I’ve been in shock and dismay since Trump took office in January. While all that was happening, multiple rapid changes were also happening in my personal life. To take stock: My husband lost his old job due to physical disability and got a new, lower paying one My youngest son left for the Navy and is now doing well in Navy Nuclear A school. I have hired two…

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Quick Tip: Dealing with Public Health and Mental Health Providers

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Accessing public health care can be frustrating and emotionally painful. Just remember that patience and politeness will get you much further than anything else. Emergencies happen. Appointments before you run long. Bring something to keep yourself and/or your children occupied, like books, small games or crafts. Especially if you have children, bring snacks (there is usually a water fountain available).  If you struggle around crowds, bring headphones or something else that will help you feel less surrounded, and sit as far from others as possible. Anticipate a wait, and if it doesn’t happen, count that to the good. Make sure that…

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Elliot Rodger and the “Magical Therapy” Myth

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(content may be triggering to some for discussion of violence) We hope that Magical Therapy Will Protect Us Elliot Rodger killed six people and himself. He did so after years (decades?) of the best mental health treatment money can buy, and of a family life that, while just as imperfect as the rest of ours, wasn’t particularly traumatic, abusive, or neglectful. I really feel for his mental health workers. He named several of them by name in his manifesto, and the temptation for many people must be huge to blame them for what he did, or at least for not…

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Struggling Toward Happiness: A Cry from the Bottom of the Well of Anxiety

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Anxiety is the essential truth of my life. Above and beyond intelligence, love, family, fear rules me. I wake up every morning and I decide, before getting out of bed, how much I can fight today. Do I have a full day in me? Only enough for work? Only enough for family? Nothing at all? I have said on more than one occasion that I am fierce. I have to be. I am in a constant, daily struggle for life. My default setting is terrified. The worst part of it is that the target keeps shifting. One day I’m terrified…

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Building Happiness: Ten Boredom Busters for Your Time Off

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Are You Bored? A lot of us take vacations or ‘stay-cations’ this time of year, and find ourselves suddenly with a lot of time on our hands that we don’t usually have. People who don’t have vacation time still have weekends and evenings that loom ahead. And a lot of people don’t know what to do with that time off. This is the deal: Boredom is usually not “boredom”. It’s not that you have nothing to do, it’s that there are barriers between you and what you really want to do. These barriers include resistance, fear, finances, and inertia. Boredom…

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Compassionate Confrontation: How To Help Someone Who Keeps Messing Up

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< p style=”text-align: center;”> The Problem:   Someone you care about is talking (again) about that wonderful light at the end of the tunnel and you know – you know because he or she has been on this road before – that the light is a pair of headlights and the truck is about to run him over. You remind this person of the scars he already has from the last time he got hit by that particular truck, and he assures you that this time it’s different – this time the truck will slow down, pick him up, and…

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