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11502871793 15119ceec5 Fitbit 1 - My Fitbit and the Quest for Health
Living WellNoodlingsOf mind & body

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My husband and I have an ongoing argument on the nature of gift giving. He thinks gifts should be a surprise, and I think that surprise is far less important than giving people something they really, really want. This year for Christmas, he totally got it right. He got me a Fitbit HR Charge. Well, I’d asked for the gray band, and they only had purple, but I can live with that. Yes, I know. Body positivity and all that jazz. I don’t mind being overweight in and of itself. What I mind is how uncomfortable my body feels, the bloating in my belly and skin issues where it folds. I’m also ultra paranoid about diabetes, since it runs in my family. So I wanted something that would accurately record my activity level, so I could have some idea (with the help of linking it to My Fitness Pal for the food diary) of where I’m gaining the weight. Also, bonus, I can see how active my friends are (and judging from my friends, how uncommon it is to actually reach 10,000 steps per day). Print PDF

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5454346653 a3a135cde7 kansas city - Worldcon Thoughts After Sasquan: Next Year in Kansas City
At playBooks and book reviewsIn the worldNoodlingsShared joy & pain

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Next year in Kansas City, we will be hosting Worldcon (“we” meaning we Missourians, not me personally, as I am a minor player at best in this drama). I am thrilled and excited to finally be in a place in my life where I can participate in person instead of through my endless babblings on line. Last night I stayed up way past my bedtime to watch the Hugo Awards 2015, and I have opinions. I started to write them as a Facebook post, then decided to move them here: My more coherent (daylight) thoughts on the Hugos: The puppies got socked in the nose with a newspaper last night, and they are yipping that they meant to get socked, and besides, the Hugo isn’t so great after all and they didn’t really want it. Which is par for the course. There is so much spin in their position at this point that if they were to stop spinning there would be no there, there, at all. I have a great deal of compassion for many of these folk. They will never be able to live their support of this down, and some (many) of them will probably eventually realize how

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hugo sad puppies rabid puppies
Books and book reviewsIn the worldPolitics and political scienceShared joy & pain

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The State of the Puppies Up to Now For those of you not familiar with the current controversy about the Hugo Award in Science Fiction, go here, here, and here to read up on what is happening. I do have skin in the game. I am a Worldcon supporting member, and I have long standing friendships and correspondences with several authors and editors and artists in science fiction. I am also a feminist, an anti-racist ally, an LGBTQ ally, and overall what the Hugo Sad Puppies would call a “SJW” (social justice warrior, meant as a pejorative when they say it). I am not going to try to diagnose anyone involved in this issue, I am only going to discuss some broad psychological principles that apply. I am trained in social work, and hold a license to practice in the state of Missouri. My “day job” is as a psychotherapist in my own practice, and I have specialized over the last ten years on issues of poverty, trauma, and personality disorders, with a lot of depression and anxiety thrown in. I have had a fascination with, and have done a lot of work with, people who abuse. The basic premise

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personal is political
Of mind & bodyPoliticsQuestioning

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“Questioning” (“Participating”, “Noodling”) is a regular feature of this website asking a question, inviting people to participate in an experience, positing an idea, or in some other way encouraging people to “join the dance”. I’ve done this in the past as well. I highly encourage you to pass this around to your friends and family and get the conversation started. How “the personal is political” applies to me: Unlike most of my extended family, both biological and through marriage, I am an unabashed liberal, feminist, anti-racist, pro marriage equality advocate for poverty elimination and the rule of law. My mother was probably privately pretty liberal. At the very least, she really enjoyed the company of people from diverse backgrounds and was largely accepting of other peoples’ differences. My dad appears to have never given much thought to the matter, and makes casually racist remarks about people close to him that are nothing so much as clueless. Print PDF

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338px police brutality svg - Black Lives Matter: The Role of Allies
In the worldLeaping HurdlesPoliticsPolitics and political scienceSocial justice

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After the Ferguson grand jury decision came the Eric Garner grand jury decision. While disappointing, it was not surprising that the police officer that put him in a choke hold on camera that ended Eric’s life will not face charges. While it is widely said that a proscuter can “indite a ham sandwich, apparently it is impossible (or nearly so) to indict a police officer. Which means that not all pork products can be indicted. Statistics all over the United States back this up. While over 99% of people arrested for crimes are indicted, at least at the Federal level, this is not borne out when the accused is a police officer. Statistics show that police officers are largely immune to prosecution for excessive force, even when it leads to the death of an innocent person. This is not a matter of one bad cop, or one bad police station. This is a systemic issue that has repercussions throughout the United States. These repercussions fall mostly, but not entirely, on the bodies of black and brown people. Thus the hashtag #blacklivesmatter. Print PDF

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Of mind & body

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HabitRPG: How and Why I started using HabitRPG in September 2014. I have been looking for an all-in-one to-do list system that actually works for me, because I have a lot of scattered responsibilities among several spheres of life, including family, house work, providing therapy, writing blog posts, writing stories and novels and non fiction books, being a social justice activist (a druid, not a warrior, tyvm!), and taking care of myself in order to continue doing all of the above. My work days often run twelve hours. There can be some down time in those hours, but twelve hours is still twelve hours. This is my “normal” for three or four days a week. So I have to figure out a “flexible” schedule that works with the fact that I don’t have time or energy for a lot of “extras” on those days, but keeps me on track on the other days – and makes sure I honor my body and mind’s need for downtime. That’s no easy task. So my friend Faith messaged me the link on Facebook, asking me to check it out, knowing I’m both a gamer and a therapist. I agreed to “play test” it,

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